Seriously?!

So I am really trying hard to be open to others and not come off as stuck up or such a snob, since I am told sometimes I can be a little standoffish when first meeting someone. But after this fiasco, I feel like it’s better to wear my emotions on my sleeve and if I am not interested in someone, it is better to just give them the cold shoulder than be nice.

A few months ago I was at a friend’s house for a football game. At this party was Dan (name has been changed =) ). Some background history on Dan: When I was in high school my brother’s girlfriend was in the same class as me, my brother was 2 years older. When I was a junior, my brother was attending the local community college. While at school I would constantly hear stories of how my brother’s girlfriend was cheating on him with Dan. I would tell my brother and he would just yell at me and make me cry and call me a liar. Obviously, he wanted to trust and believe his girlfriend. Not long after this, my brother’s girlfriend broke up with him and became pregnant with Dan’s child. Told you so.

Fast forward about 8 years later….Dan is at this party. I really haven’t had a conversation with the guy and he begins to talk to me, I decide to not be rude and have a conversation with him, that wasn’t too painful. A few weeks later I see Dan at the movie theatre with his daughter, I say hello and proceed to go watch my movie. The next day I have a facebook message from him asking how my movie was, again I don’t want to be rude so I respond. We go back and forth for awhile with small talk, and eventually he asks me for my number. I know we have mutual friends and Moses Lake is such a small town that I am bound to run into him again, so I give him my number.

Dan proceeds to text me constantly that night, I tell him I am going to bed and he tells me that I should continue to text him until I fall asleep. Umm…no thanks. I’m tired. The next few days he continues to constantly text me and I’m not really sure what to do. I try to take a long time to respond and blame it on my nephews that were visiting at the time and he asks me, “do you want kids of your own?” Umm..ya, but not at the moment. He then says, “Oh you want to wait until you’re married?” At this point I am extremely irritated but don’t want to be rude, since I know he has a kid out of wedlock, so I nicely respond, ya..that’s the plan! To which he responds, “doesn’t everyone?? That was a joke”. Not sure I see the funniness in that…..

So then I try to nicely tell him I’m not interested by telling him, I’m not sure what your intentions are but I’m not interested in dating anyone right now. He responds that’s cool, I just wanted to go grab a drink sometime, did you just get out of a relationship or something? No…I didn’t, I just really don’t want to talk to you. And he still continued to text me regularly.

After consulting with some friends I decide the best way to handle this is the ignore method.

This is how it has been going:
12/25/11 – Merry Christmas!
12/26/11 – Hey how was your Christmas?
12/27/11 – Did you forget about me? =(
1/1/12 – How was your new years?
1/8/12 – Hey
1/17/12 – Happy Bday 
1/21/12 – (FB Message) did you change your number or something? i have tried to text you a few times and you never respond =\

At this point I really just want to respond to him and tell him that I don’t think it’s a good idea to speak with him given the fact that he knocked up my brothers girlfriend, probably while my brother was dating her, and I really think it’s extremely inappropriate for him to even think it’d be ok to hang out with me.

Oh, and I later found out that at that same party he got my best friend’s 18-year-old sister in laws phone number…he is 28..gross.

Song of the day: Cry Me a River by, Justin Timberlake. Its pretty obvious why. :)